It has been too long since I made a post and I apologize for that. I started my new work schedule and it makes me feel like the day is shorter. That’s just an excuse, though. I’ll be better this week.
I want to share this quote with you: “No one appreciates what I do, until I don’t do it anymore.” I really liked this quote when I first saw it. I think a lot of women relate to it because we feel like we do so much in a day and never get a thank you. Especially moms.
We compare ourselves to other people, oftentimes our husbands, and think “He doesn’t care that I spent hours cleaning the house” or “I wish he would help me more.” I was really feeling this when we came home from our mini-vacation over the weekend and knew my to-do list was a mile high.
Then I looked up and realized Jesse was already helping me straighten the house up. Yes, without me asking him.
I realized that those feelings I have are unjustified. He does a lot of chores too. Probably much more than most husbands. All the time I spent thinking he didn’t appreciate me, I wasn’t appreciating him. And on top of that, why should I get a pat on the back for things I should be doing anyway. I’m not over-achieving by doing chores that have to be done.
I feel pretty guilty about it. I know that if I didn’t feel that way, we would get more chores done and I wouldn’t resent him for the chores I got done on my own. I’m going to try to focus on appreciating him more instead of wondering when he will appreciate me.