Friday, I miscarried our first pregnancy. We were only 5 weeks along and had only known we were pregnant for a week. I hate to share sad news, but I want everyone to know that Jesse and I have appreciated all of the love and support we have gotten the past few days. It has been a sad time for us, but we are hopeful that things will work out better in the future.
Let me share an embarrassing moment with you…
Yesterday, Jesse and I went out to eat in his truck. He was really tired from a rough day at work, so I drove us home. This is a rare occurrence for us because I hardly ever drive when we are together.
About a block away from our house, Jesse says, “Do you always drive like this?” I reply with, “What? You mean SAFELY?” He says I did a sassy head bob. (I’m not so sure about that.)
About a minute later, as I was pulling into the driveway, I swiped my Trailblazer.
There was hardly any damage, but I was pretty upset. It wasn’t until we had time to get over it that we remembered I said that. That’s what I get for being “sassy.”
My in-laws took us along on their yearly vacation to Las Vegas!
We saw so much in our four days there and I tried to take as many pictures as possible, but pictures don’t do it justice.
We stayed on Fremont Street, but visited the Strip also for shopping and site-seeing. We got to see many of the famous hotels.
We took pictures, ate lunch, and watched the animatronic show at Caesar’s Palace.
We saw the flower exhibit and the water show at the Bellagio.
We played slot machines and had drinks at the Flamingo.
Jesse and I got to do a little bit of gambling for the first time and see the Fremont Street Experience.
Jesse’s step-dad, Greg, and I also did the Slotzilla Zoomline. The new zipline is 10 stories high and goes the length of the entire block. It was scary, but entirely worth it!
I can now check Vegas off my list of places I’ve never been, but plan on going back. The trip was a great way to end the year.
Now, on to 2015…I hope it was as great as last year!
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. For one, we got engaged on Thanksgiving 2 years ago.
It is also at the top of my list for it’s simplicity. I love that all we do the entire day is see family and eat great food.
This year, we split up our celebrations. Our meal with my family was today and we will spend Thanksgiving day with his family. I got assigned sweet potatoes for both celebrations, though.
I rarely make sweet potatoes and wasn’t crazy about the recipe I was using before, so I started hunting for a new one. Thank goodness for Pinterest because I found a simple and sweet recipe right away.
I followed Jessica’s recipe from Butter, with a side of Bread almost exactly, but I made a couple small changes. We chunked the potatoes with a fork, but then mashed them in the Kitchenaid Mixer. I also stirred the sauce into the sweet potatoes instead of using the sauce as a topping.
Pretty simple and easy to multiply for a big group, or two in my case.
Another perk of being married: Not only do I get to spend time with my crazy family on holidays, but I get to spend time with his too.
Yesterday marks our first anniversary as a married couple. We made it through the dreaded “hardest year of our marriage.” If the urban legends are true and this was the hardest year of our marriage, then I’d say I’m in for a really easy marriage.
This year went much more smoothly than I expected. Not that I expected to be divorced or anything like that, but relationships seem to go bad more often than not nowadays.
The most important thing I have learned over this past year is something that I think will help me in our marriage in the long run. When things are down, we have to remember our ultimate goal: to build a life and a family , where we are both happy being ourselves together.
A lot of times, the details of a situation can make the big picture blurry. Learning to keep focused on that goal has helped me to remain calm when things aren’t going the way I want or expect.
Let me put a disclaimer here, because there were several times that I did lose my cool. But, when I found my head again, remembering to keep the right perspective kept me from even considering giving up.
I know that our marriage will not always be as blissful as it was this past year, but I know that even through the worst years of our life, we can make it because we believe in the same goal.
Now to get past the sappy part, we went on a weekend trip to Cloudcroft, New Mexico for our anniversary. Cloudcroft is a small mountain town, full of character. We spent the weekend walking from shop to shop, eating (way too much) delicious food, and cuddled in the historic Cloudcroft Hotel. It was the perfect place to spend the weekend alone.
We left Cloudcroft just in time to beat the snow coming in, but there was snow waiting for us when we got home.
I’m happy not only to be celebrating a year with Jesse, but the best year of my life so far. I know that we will have bad years too, but I am hoping that we have even better years ahead of us.
Our first wedding anniversary is approaching. I can’t believe it’s already been a year.
To kick off the celebration a little early, Jesse gave me my present this weekend.
A 1950s wedding band and a 1960s art deco ring. He knows how to make me happy!
I don’t yet have words for the past year, but hopefully I will be able to make a post about all of that soon. In the mean time, we’re working on a home improvement project before our Thanksgiving guests arrive.
It has been too long since I made a post and I apologize for that. I started my new work schedule and it makes me feel like the day is shorter. That’s just an excuse, though. I’ll be better this week.
I want to share this quote with you: “No one appreciates what I do, until I don’t do it anymore.” I really liked this quote when I first saw it. I think a lot of women relate to it because we feel like we do so much in a day and never get a thank you. Especially moms.
We compare ourselves to other people, oftentimes our husbands, and think “He doesn’t care that I spent hours cleaning the house” or “I wish he would help me more.” I was really feeling this when we came home from our mini-vacation over the weekend and knew my to-do list was a mile high.
Then I looked up and realized Jesse was already helping me straighten the house up. Yes, without me asking him.
I realized that those feelings I have are unjustified. He does a lot of chores too. Probably much more than most husbands. All the time I spent thinking he didn’t appreciate me, I wasn’t appreciating him. And on top of that, why should I get a pat on the back for things I should be doing anyway. I’m not over-achieving by doing chores that have to be done.
I feel pretty guilty about it. I know that if I didn’t feel that way, we would get more chores done and I wouldn’t resent him for the chores I got done on my own. I’m going to try to focus on appreciating him more instead of wondering when he will appreciate me.
One thing I’ve noticed about Jesse is that he is a combination of my favorite people. He seems to have traits that those who made a big impact on my life have too.
When I had this epiphany, it really made me think. Have I been subconsciously taking notes on what kind of people inspire me and push me to be my best? Or is it just coincidence?
Just some food for thought. Happy Friday!
Being newlywed, I have so much to learn about marriage. I feel like I’m constantly learning and adjusting. My epiphany this week was that Jesse and I really keep each other in perspective. We are two people living one life together, bringing different experiences and personalities to each situation.
Perfect example: this week when I was getting upset about things that were going on, Jesse was clear-headed enough to talk me through it and make me realize that things weren’t as bad as they seemed and that they were inevitably going to work out.
I know that two mindsets could easily be a problem area for some relationships, but I think this is one of the best things about our married life.
For the mister and I, it seems like our lives are so much better now that we have each other to work through each situation, for better or worse. It’s really nice to know that I have someone who shares my goals with me and that we are helping each other get there.